Do’s
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Dress appropriately: Present yourself as you would for a job interview or formal occasion.
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Be punctual: Arrive early, allowing time to settle and avoid lateness.
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Show respect to the court: Stand when the judge enters and leaves.
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Address the judge correctly: Use “Your Honour” or “Judge.”
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Be honest and clear: Answer questions directly and truthfully. Avoid unnecessary detail.
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Communicate calmly: Speak clearly in a measured tone. Do not shout or raise your voice.
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Listen attentively: Pay close attention to what is being asked or said.
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Organise your evidence: Have your documents prepared, relevant, and easy to present.
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Keep children at the centre: Frame your requests and responses around your children’s best interests.
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Seek professional guidance: If you have legal support, debrief with them before and after hearings.
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Be respectful to everyone: Extend courtesy to the judge, court staff, and all parties.
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Ask if unsure: Request clarification if you do not understand a question.
Don’ts
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Do not be disrespectful: Avoid speaking down to the judge, the other parent, or court staff.
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Do not lie or exaggerate: Always give truthful evidence and avoid false statements.
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Do not become confrontational: Stay composed and avoid heated exchanges with the other side.
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Do not overcomplicate your language: Speak in plain English, not legal jargon.
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Do not interrupt: Allow the judge and the other party to finish before responding.
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Do not let emotions control you: Remain calm and avoid reacting out of anger or frustration.
This approach ensures you come across as prepared, respectful, and child-focused — exactly the qualities the court values.